To say i have had a few good weeks might be the understatement of the decade or putting it mildly but they have been the most fulfilling, nurturing and memorable ones for so many reasons. Amidst all the bliss and work chaos as per usual,  i spent most of this weekend and last week ish listening to different podcasts and this gave me an idea or rather a different view on a couple things that i can’t really say will be all in one post but might make it in a few posts that i will write on.

I love me a good podcast like the next person i would assume, from listening to Dead ass with Khadeen and Devale which remains my favorite or a good listen to The Casey crew Dj envy from the breakfast club and his wife Gia cut up deep truths hey i would so recommend these raw talks however this weekend one of the major things for me was listening to Vanessa Mdee’s  podcast  Deep dive with Vanessa Mdee if you have yet to listen please do. Everyone knows the Tanzanian superstar from a broadcaster to the ever blazing female musician, an incredible performer and her  appearance on the MTV Shuga amongst other things her name is associated with, she is a legend. So on her podcast she has been opening up about a whole lot but for me it was her talk on communication in relationships that she did with her beau ohhh they don’t call him Mr butterscotch for a reason but let me not get started Aheeeem *clears throat*  so as i was saying , the talk was everything because it truly spoke for me if i can say so myself but i am sure it spoke for a lot f people too.

One of the things they articulately  spoke on was the love language, for anyone that knows me well enough they would know i am super in touch with my feelings, and at some point the world may make you feel like its a bad thing take it from me NO IT IS NOT. It just goes to show that well your human and you have emotions and you are not afraid to show them i guess. So the next best thing is having someone or a partner, significant other or date someone that accepts that as it is. Vanessa spoke on a book i have come across once or so at some point, “The 5 Love languages” by Dr Garry Chapman, where he identifies the love languages as

• Words of affirmation- A compliment goes a long way, 
• Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Quality Time 
• Physical Touch

So as humanly possible no one expects all our love languages to be the same, some may be more than this list and others exactly this while others some of these things aren’t really necessary to them. I think mine fall more or less within these five so to speak, i may also look at things like  attention ,affection and security as an addition too but these are definitely there for me. It is not a bad thing to acknowledge what your love languages are this will not only help someone love you better n in a deserving way but it will for sure be a definition of what you want and need when it comes to loving yourself as an individual before someone else comes along and loves on you.

Words of affirmation go a long way, sometimes a simple compliment may make a very huge difference, with it comes no room for self doubt nor self pity, you always know that without asking you have someone in your conner and hence a bad day isn’t a bad life. also things like gifts and not necessarily on occasions alone but even randomly just a gesture of love and apreciacion to the other person also means a lot, acts of service such as doing a core that they would normally do for them,  make an effort towards something you wouldn’t do or hate doing just so they can have a day off or rest, treat them or even a self massage all these are acts of service that communicate love, spend some quality time with your partner no matter how small or mindless/mindful it is, do things that you both enjoy and just be around each other that alone screams love over and over and lastly physical touch as they say is the magic when its tender intimate meaningful it is twice the love language . I personally would add my three in here too, well what i can think off quickly off my feet, Security when you are with someone just them feeling secured enough be it financially emotionally or physically that alone will communicate how much love is there, as for affection and attention i think they go hand in hand for me, just the right amount of attention, not too much not too little, there will not be a need for space out loud because there is this balance more of i want to be around you but you can breath and do your stuff too, affection sums it up for me. Again we all have different love languages and we all show that differently so its good to know.

I chose to share this because we are going through a time where the world is in a sad place with everything going on, some people are locked indoors with their families and people they love as others are out living life, it wouldn’t hurt to share some light and love in these dark times i thought.

* Cheers!*

Good day everyone.

It has surely been a minute, but come to think of it it’s always a minute or something of late, with the way the times are rightnow the world is rather sad i guess what i really am trying to say is that what truly matters is that I always find my way back here my happy place, to writing and sharing, creating content and living my best life the best way i know how.  I am constantly reminded of how lucky and blessed I am to always be able to bring myself to write and share as I want to, deep down that realization itself is worth everything.

These past few weeks have been crazy so to speak, from COVD constantly scaring us something new everyday, to the fact that we do not no cure yet man oh man to life not being the same really, I choose to look at it this way, this has come with a lot of lessons, disciplining and its beauty too. I have realized things I didn’t even know about me, and how much my faith is built on the right path and how i  can deal with anything that comes my way(at least i believe so) because I have the best and supportive, prayerful and just divine close people, friends and family. If I had a bad day and I was about to loose it one of them always makes me realized it’s a bad day not a bad life, I am so grateful for them. Also most importantly it has helped me open up to love again in ways I didn’t think where possible and for that I am utterly grateful.

During these trying times were we feel like one day it’s  better like we can breath for a second while the other it’s just terrible, not only because of things that the world out there is projecting as what is going on in the world like COVID or BLM movements but also what we go through in our daily lives that no one projects out there, so we don’t know how to process them. Our mental wellness is highly underrated and that is something that we need to work on as individuals, communities and even institutions. This is about to be the new normal for a while maybe there might be better days or worse but we cant act like it isn’t happening, or it isn’t affecting our wellness one way or another, the realisation that this is happening is a step towards finding a new norm and so as we take care of our bodies our environment our neighbors our mother earth we need to remember to always take care of us, we seem to always forget  that is more important .

I filled in a survey on mental wellbeing session we had at work, and how the sharing and awareness has helped me out during these times, and i didnt know the impact of reading the weekly volumes had on me until i expressed myself filling in that survey. I realised we might take it rather lightly but it may be something as little as get enough sleep, talk to your beloved ones, when in duress talk to someone, pray about it, eat well and healthy, exercise, connect with people you hold dear, do something you enjoy, like let’s say read a book, draw, paint, and the like.

I could go on and on and the truth is in a way we are all different individuals and this is a blessing in itself, we all deal with things very differently and knowing that there are things that we could do to help the next person’s mental state that begin with us taking care of our mental state as well is a bonus and a blessing in itself.

   CHEERS!